18 years ago, we said "I DO". . .

{ September 11th, 1993, Jeff and I were married }

  

It's hard to believe its been 18 years, neither one of us could ever of imagined that special day so long ago...that in the years ahead, we would experience so much joy...and heartbreak.

Most of us know, being married as long as we have isn't too common these days. It's strange to feel like we're accomplishing anything extraordinary. But it hasn't been without some bumps and bruises along the way.

Knowing no relationship is perfect, Ive learned you have to nurture it and make changes as the years go by. Now with our children growing up, and Senna soon leaving the nest, we will again need to adjust to new beginnings with each other and as a family. It hasn't been easy to stay connected as a couple over the years, with Jeff's demanding work hours and while raising 4 children, 1 of those with special needs. It certainly has put extra stresses on our relationship. 

{we are so blessed}

I really don't have any great advice for a long and happy marriage, but I think learning to seperate yourself from being parents and still remaining a "couple" is always difficult in a marriage, they equally need attention...and often the kids needs are put first.

For me its having Jeff by my side at the end of the night, sharing our day together, surrounded by the warmth of love and the sound of laughter. I found this will keep whatever you have left in you that day, going! OH and always my dads advice, "never stay mad for more than 15 minutes!"  (My parents have been married for over 50 years, so I think he's proven it works!)

Certainly 9/11 will always have a different meaning to us...but its always a bit hard to celebrate each year knowing so many lost their lives on this day.  Watching the news coverage of all those tragic events again was difficult. Our thoughts and prayers to all the victims and their families.